This is what eighteen years of marriage looks like. Our marriage is officially an “adult”. We have been through some of the best times and some of the toughest times. We dated young (high school), got married young and had children young. We experienced our “typical 30’s” in our 20’s by getting married at 20 and completing our family by 25. This was both good and bad. We were too naive to know any better (bliss) yet too rushed to really enjoy the small moments especially with our children. The great news is that when our children are off setting up and living their own lives, we will still be young (for the most part).
Today, many couples wait until they are finished with college and fully setup in life before pursuing marriage. This was definitely not the case in my life. I met my husband (Steve) the first day of my junior year of high school and we’ve pretty much been together since. We got married at 20, had our first child at 21 and the second at 24. This means that we now have a senior in high school and an 8th grader.
Starting your relationship at the age of 16 means that you automatically expect there to be change. You expect that each other will become different as time passes. We were opposites and it worked. We complemented each other yet molded and changed over the years to mesh quite nicely. Essentially, we grew up together.
Looking back I can definitely say that we have each changed; me more so than Steve. I was a very reserved and shy teenager. I remember like it was yesterday him telling me, “I’m going to change you”. Of course, I immediately told him that he was crazy, but to be honest, he was more right than I could have ever imagined at the time. Now, I am outgoing, bold and almost aggressive at times; totally different than when I was 16. So, yes, Steve has changed me. He gave me confidence in myself and hope in the future.
Steve has changed a bit as nearly two decades will do that to a person but he is still that same sweet fun loving person that I met in sixth period on the first day of my junior year of high school. He was and still is a lover of life, lives in the moment and makes me laugh in almost every situation. I fell in love with him for his good looks and his sense of humor. This is still the case 18 years later. Happy 18th to my wonderful husband. I would not do this life with anyone else.
This is what 18 years of marriage looks like.