In case anyone missed this on The Huffington Post today, I wanted to share it here because, aside from the raw and gorgeous photos taken by photographer Fred Huening that revlove around the maternal bond between mother and child, what I found most intriguing is how honest he is in touching on the nature of his feelings towards the transformation that takes place while seeing your partner become a parent. How he manages to combine a staggering sense of awe behind the lens in each of these captures but also talks about the fact of just how differently he came to view his girlfriend once she became mother to his son. An ambivalence that can be felt in certain photos included in the series.
“When my son was born my girlfriend turned from a lover into a mother. Her love and attention concentrated (of course) on my son. So I felt sometimes like an outsider observing the ‘inner circle; of mother and son. I had ambivalent feelings and so I took my camera to express emotions.”
Huening’s photos are also edged with an underlying pain once you learn that the couple’s first baby was delivered stillborn. And that the child featured here is the one that followed that loss. For me, it changes the way I see each image. And how I digest the series in it’s entirety. It also makes me eager to know a little more. About each of these people involved.
Any thoughts on this? On how motherhood can shift one’s role as lover. I know it’s more popular to say that women become sexier or more desirable once they have children, but is that really the case?
I found Huening’s admission of ambivalence to be a brave confession. One that made me stop and think about how easy it is to become fully engulfed in the needs and attention of our children and how much effort we put forth into both roles. As lover and mother. I also thought finding emotion through the camera was a really interesting way to approach it.