Frances McDormand

If there is ever a moral Godhead hear to be crowned on The Books, let it be the voice of Frances McDormand.

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  • I like that she acknowledges that everyone ages differently and that she has been lucky. This is something I need to be reminded of because I am really opinionated on the subject. I can’t believe that it’s even a talking point for me and my friends because I’m only 32, and the eldest in my friendship circle. But several girls have had Botox, and they don’t look younger – they just look like they’ve had Botox. As the mother of daughters I simply cannot set that example for my children. And I want them to look at MY face, to know who I truly am, every line and crease. Outside of the moral, I also think of cosmetic procedures as a matter of aesthetics – I think it looks terrible. I love a well used, worn in face. The mark of a life well lived! Women like Frances, Patti Smith and Lauren Hutton look so graceful and confident to me.

  • Pretty strong quote from her. So true though. Nobody wants to grow up past the age of 21. I really like how she implies that changing her face would be like taking away all the years that she’s smiled at her son. It’d be like erasing her life.

    The life you live really is worn on your face. Still so different for men aging though. Look at Keith Richards face, people love it and say all the time that he’s really lived and rocked in his life and it shows on his face. I don’t think there are any women who get that kind of sentiment from people. People look at Stevie Nicks and say, oh she USED to be so hot.

  • I love this. There is so much to treasure in the aging process, so much life! I’ve earned each and every line and wrinkle and plan to wear them like a badge.

  • Wonderful! I love everything she said, and I really love that she is passionate and opinionated about the subject. We do need her voice because we are drowning in the other voices and they are not voices that love women and their stories and their lives. Thank you so much for posting this Jess. I know I’ve said it before but you are making an incredible space here. xoxo

    • awww, thank you Hillary! If women like you feeling satisfied here then I know I must be doing something right. But really, WE are doing something right. The help and support here makes all the difference.


  • “This is the map.” I love this. I Love the idea of not wanting to erase the wonder and the sorrow and the joy that we have lived from our faces and our hair and our bodies. I love it that she wants to be an example, and that she admits it was hard, and took her five years to understand the wisdom in her friend’s words. I wrote a poem, not long after my firstborn babe entered the world, that was an acknowledging of the changes in my appearance, a coming to terms with aging. My sister in law, who survived an aggressive form of cancer as a teenager always says she is thankful for her gray hairs because it means she has lived long enough to earn them. I want to see each passing day as a gift, and embrace aging with grace and confidence and joy that I’ve lived another day to earn that laugh line or wrinkle or silver strand of hair.

  • I love this and I love her. I have to say that living in Orange County (as I did for several years) was tough for me. I felt like there was something really profoundly sad about the fact that so many women change their faces and bodies down there (I know it’s happening everywhere but it was super apparent there) and I feel like we really need to stand up against this and embrace ourselves and the aging process. I love getting older. I truly believe that I’m getting better with age – even with my white hairs, wrinkles, and a body that’s created three people.

    • I am so happy you brought that up, Melissa. I think, based on where you live, it’s harder to actually age with ease. Orange county seems to have such such a sad and vapid stereotype in regards to this stuff. But for good reason, right? So strange too, because it’s not like all these women look necessarily “better” … just different.

      Either way, I love that you touched on that particular point.

  • She is so beautiful! Inside and out. I love her and her words! I am already going gray, I already have many wrinkles – and I love it! It is a map, it is MY map!
    We need to finally start loving ourselves more.
    We are women, we are strong, we are beautiful…


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