“You’re born naked. The rest is drag.”
Being queer, visibility in the world among straight people (sometimes other queers) is difficult because of how I choose to present myself. People often wrongfully assume that I’m straight. I “come out” regularly in response to questions in regards to who I live with, who I’m dating and now who I’m marrying.
It’s something I struggled with in my early twenties. Hanging out at queer parties where a lot of the girls had the cool edgy cuts and little if any make up. I’ll never forget one particular night at a party in LA. I was hanging out with this girl I had a crush on and her friends. Her friend was talking about a girl that one of their friends had just started dating. She announced that she would never date a girl who wore lipstick. It was a major turn off for her. I’m pretty sure I was wearing Morange from MAC that night. A lipstick that is literally brighter than a glass of oj! Imagine Palm Springs Grandma.
I find a ton of joy in feeling my version of pulled together and that process has always included make up. A dark or bright lip, winged eye liner, or certain eyeshadows that will either make my eyes look more grey or more green. (beat that face!) That night at the party in LA I may have felt insecure about my make up, and I may have contemplated cutting my hair into one of those edgy cuts, but I love make up and I never did cut my hair because that just wasn’t me.
My most favorite part of putting on my make up is my brows. I was robbed of the dark Swiss Italian brows that most of my cousins inherited. I have the skinniest, barely there blonde brows. Deserted island? It’s the one thing I would take with me.
The only time I ever go out on purpose without them is my weekly Monday thrift store hunts. I’m on the job and so focused on what I’m doing there I couldn’t care less about them! So weird, I don’t know how that makes sense, but it does! Oh and for a pool! I will wipe them off so fast if there is a pool involved!
Any other time I couldn’t live without them.
Find Jessica, moderator of a plus sized body positive site “Ignore the Should” HERE